Relationship Mistakes Made by Every Young Couple
26-08-2017 8:49am | by Preity Shukla
Relationship Mistakes Made By Every Young Couple
In today’s fast running life, divorces and splits are a very common activity and thus many peaceful relations get broken in seconds of time. No credibility exist between the married couples Thus to stay away from all these mismatches and complexities of relationships, young couples are choosing to stay in a live in relationship rather than marrying each other and later getting separated. Separation of couples has become a major matter of these days and no counselors or books can help them out to sort the things. Here are some of the mistakes being discussed due to which the young couples get into a fight with each other and their ultimate conclusion is getting separated from each other which are actually making our society backward in some or other way.
Expecting your partner to have changed as you want
No one of us is God and hence we can’t be perfect in all the senses. There are some or other flaws in each and every person. But each one of us has our own identity which is totally from some other person. If you expect that your partner should change according to your needs and wishes then it is the first step that you have already taken to make your relationship complicated. If you start telling them to do this, do that then may be for sometimes they may listen to you and try to change for you, but after some time there is a chance that things will not be better. The problems will then and now keep occurring and this problem circle will keep on rotating between both of you. Try to accept your partner as she or he is until and unless you find their habits harmful for anyone around in the society.
Allowance of the interference of the third party
It is always a famous saying that when two people fight, the third one is the person always to take benefit out of it. May be this is not true in all the cases, but many times it has been observed that if a third person comes in between a couple, they may end up fighting ruthlessly. Therefore, allowing any third person to interfere with the relationship is the biggest mistake that young couples do these days. This third party can be anyone like your friends, in laws, neighbors or anybody else. Nobody can ever handle a fight between the couple and it is because of the fact that it is they two who know each other well and can solve the conflicts. No one can handle the situation except the couple itself and hence it is always advisable that you should not allow the interference of anyone in such situations.
Allowing problems to pile up
If you allow your problems to pile up like a burden and do not discuss with each other, these issues will never end up and a heap will be piled up on you. The only ending, in this case, will be the destruction of your relationship. Therefore, the young couples should try to discuss the issues among each other and try to take out the solutions. But what these couples are doing these days is that they try to hide problems from each other and keep thinking about them in loneliness. This not only makes them apart from each other but also a lot of confusions can occur due to all these activities. Therefore, get some time, make your mind calm and cool and then try to discuss things with each other.
No respect for the differences among each other
God has created us with features and characteristics that are totally different from another person. Even two twins born from the same mother do not have any behavior feature in common. Thus, it is obvious that two people who are in a relationship will have a lot of difference from each other. What makes a relationship strong and healthy is the respect of difference found amongst each other. But young couples are having the habit of mocking each other on some or other difference which many times can create conflict against each other. Therefore, always try to respect each other and value out the differences so that the relationship can always be maintained healthy.
Never accepting the faults and mistakes
A human being has always been suffering from a disease and it is that they never have to accept any fault within themselves. But within a relationship, these kinds of issues can bring a lot of trouble. Young couples these days are very aggressive as well. They have an ego problem in them Hence, they do mistakes and blame each other for what all wrong things occur. But it is very important that the faults and the mistakes should be accepted because if a mistake has been accepted it can be easily improved. But neglecting it and putting the blame over another person can be harmful for the relation.
Fighting always to get victory on another person
People in ego many times forget that with the person they are fighting is the one they love a lot. Their egoistic attitude makes them fight with each other. Nobody wants to bow down and they keep on fighting to justify out their point. It is always good to listen to each other’s point and keep your opinion in front of each other. It is a true fact that a silent discussion can always bring good results and hence be calm and cool and discuss things with peace and love.
Not understanding needs of each other
When we become busy with our schedule, we often forget the need of the other person. This brings a wide gap between the young couples and they stop discussing things with each other. This way they also stop understanding each other’s needs whether mental or physical. Therefore, try to make a balance in life so that you can bring stability to each other and remain happy.
There are lot other minor mistakes that young couples do and which brings disturbances in their relationship. So, they should always try to focus on such points and remain away from all this. This way they will be able to maintain their relationship in a healthy manner and remain happy with each other always.